I believe we are constantly changing. Does transformation mean something huge that takes place in a short period of time? Sometimes. But sometimes, transformation happens in small ways that accumulate over time. And sometimes those small ways are the things that set you up for a major decision. That’s what happened to me …
This article really isn’t about me. It’s actually about you. Why? Because a number of events have happened over the past couple of months that have led me to this point in my life.
Everyone talks about having a why that’s big enough to get you out of bed in the morning, to keep you going when times are tough, and that inspires you to make difficult, if not unpopular, decisions. I’ll be honest with you … even though I’m a nutritionist and my focus is helping women balance their hormones and as a result remove weight that they might need to remove, I haven’t been the greatest example and that doesn’t sit right with me. YOU are my reason for getting up at 5 am to work out. YOU are my reason for reading, researching and writing when I don’t feel like it. YOU are the reason I left my cushy corporate job to pursue my dream of helping women live their healthiest, happiest, best lives.
Through a series of conversations, events and realizations, it hit me recently. I need to be my best to serve you. I need to take the time to take care of myself, to be the best example I can be, to show you, not just tell you, how you CAN be 52 years old, look way younger, have boundless energy, have an AMAZING sex life and be the healthiest you’ve ever been. I haven’t been doing that. I mean to but like everyone else, life is crazy busy and I let other things get in the way of being my best and that does not sit right with me. You deserve better.
So here is my promise to you. I will lead by example. I will not say anything further about this but you will see by my actions that life is amazing and if you’ll just put yourself at the top of the food chain so to speak, not only will YOU be fabulous, but everyone around you will be better off.
It is time for women to learn to step into their power. It’s time to stop living small. Why is it so hard for us to realize that if we take care of ourselves first, unapologetically, and be true to ourselves, that everyone benefits?
I’ve been doing that a bit myself. I’ve been afraid to fully step into the role of “sexpert” as my girlfriend called me. I’ve been skirting the issue by making balancing hormones the focus and “oh by the way, if your hormones are balanced, sex will be better” which is true, but not the way I want to focus my practice. Instead, my focus is changing to “if you want a great sex life, here’s how you can do it and the way to do that is by balancing your hormones”. But there’s SO much more than making sure your thyroid is working efficiently, that you’re handling stress effectively, that your sex hormones are all balanced. So much of it is emotional and mental.
I am not a sex therapist, psychologist or psychotherapist. But I do have a lot of experience when it comes to sexual hangups and wanting to be one way but afraid to be honest and open up. Why can’t we just be honest, accept that fact that maybe we’re more of a “dirty girl” than society leads us to believe is acceptable. Who cares? What about you? Your partner? You can be any way you want to be darling.
One of my favourite movies is Under the Tuscan Sun and while I love Diane Lane’s character (Frances) and her journey, my favourite character is Katherine. She is uninhibited, free and unapologetic about being herself. Admit it. Don’t you wish you were more like her? I don’t mean just sexually promiscuous, but her personality in general. She dresses, talks and acts consistent with who she truly is. No apologies.
So here’s the deal. While I’m undergoing my own transformation, my writing is likely to take on a different tone. Yes, I will continue to write about hormones and supplements but my main focus from here out is helping women discover their true selves, giving them permission to live life on their terms and always, answering questions about sex and hormones.
I hope you’ll join me on this journey as I lead by example and we become a community of empowered, free women who take life by the balls and don’t apologize for who we are.
Are you in? How can I help you? I’m only an email away.
Have a fabulous week!!! Until next time darling ….
Sandy O’Shea, CNP