Taking Control of your State

Have you ever been in a funk so bad you don’t know how to climb out of it?  The most frustrating part of it sometimes is that you don’t know where it came from, what is causing it or what to do to get out of it.  I’m in that space as I write … and working hard to get out of it.  


Tony Robbins always talks about changing your state when you’re in an unfavourable place.  When I start spiralling (and yes, I am still prone to spiralling although not very often any more), I will normally either put some happy summer music on and crank it, blast Evanescence or some other heavy metal music.  Sometimes I’ll put on an inspirational video on YouTube. Sometimes Tony, sometimes Eric Thomas, and sometimes I need TD Jakes. These men either make me change the station or change my state. There isn’t much middle ground with any of them.


You could go for a walk.  Do something physical like use a punching bag.  Have really rough sex if that works for you. You could spend time in nature, even if it’s just sitting outside.  You could read. You could eat some greens (I swear it helps) or a little dark chocolate (especially if you’re a woman) or drink some water.


Vitamin D, taken regularly, is really good for keeping the funky moods away.  If you’re anything like me, the lack of sunshine really affects you. So take vitamin D every day … start with 1,000-3,000 IU at this time of year.  The darker your skin the more vitamin D you will need. If osteoporosis is an issue, add some K2. During the middle of winter I usually take about 7,000 IU to keep my immune system strong and my mood bright.


You can diffuse some quality essential oils.  Bright oils like lemon, peppermint and citrus fresh are all refreshing, uplifting scents that can lift your mood.  You can apply lavender to calm you, stress away to relax you, peace and calming to help ease a funky mood. I don’t always have access to my diffuser so I usually have Stress Away on an aromatherapy bracelet (which I highly recommend by the way).


You can listen to binaural beats (which I am playing right now).  I’m listening to “Remove All Negative Blockages Erase Subconscious Negative Patterns Release Unwanted Thoughts” and I’m calming down quickly.


Sometimes it’s hormonal.  Let’s face it, when stress is getting the better of you, when you’re premenstrual, pregnant or menopausal, there are a lot of hormones floating around in you and they’re not always in balance.  They can cause a LOT of grief.  Diet, supplements and essential oils can all help with that.


I know in my brain that I am the only one who has the power to make me happy or not.  It has nothing to do with another person. But sometimes it’s easier said than done. And sometimes we need to take a few minutes and feel what we feel.  Be sad, cry, wallow for a few minutes. But only a few minutes.


Then do something to get out of that state.  Because believe me, you don’t want to stay there and YOU … and only YOU … have the power to get out of it.

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