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Never settle for mediocre sex

Let’s face it. Life is busy, stressful and way too short. Your sex life, however, should NOT be any of those things. Why would I write about such a subject? Because I firmly believe that life is too hectic, too stressful with too many things vying for

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My “Secret” to Making Lasting Changes

You’ve come to see me because you’re tired of being tired and having no sex drive. We talk about all the different aspects to your life … nutrition, activity, lifestyle, relationships, self care, and so on. I’ve devised a plan to help you regain your energy, your

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Men and Women and their Differing Sexual Motivations

This has been coming up for me a LOT lately. I started noticing it after I received a meme. Women want love and affection before they give sex. Men want sex to give love and affection. Is this true all the time? Of course not.   Are there

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Sex and Communication

Yesterday I attended a workshop called “Create your Exceptional Life” which is the brainchild of Barb Takeda of Soul-Full Expressions. It’s an amazing experience and I encourage you to look her up on Facebook under “Create your Exceptional Life” if you’re in the GTA and come out

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Passion Enhancer

Silicone Rechargeable Passion Enhancer Price:     $50.00 Fully USB rechargeable within 70 minutes Dimensions: 1” ring diameter, 3” x 1.75” stimulator Materials: Silicone, ABS with metallic plating Manufacturer: Calexotics This dual purpose vibrator/cock ring provides pleasure to both parties. The ring expands to accommodate most sizes. The vibrator

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Living out your Comfort Zone

Lately the subject of getting outside of your comfort zone has come up a LOT. What IS your comfort zone and why should you push past it? Is it a relationship, a job, a friendship, your sex life? I’m a sex and hormone nutritionist so my focus

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What is a normal sex life anyway?

I was being interviewed one day and this is the first question she asked me.   My short answer is “whatever the couple agrees that it is”. I’ll explain. Sex is obviously a very personal thing. It doesn’t matter whether you’re into “plain, vanilla sex using the “missionary”

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Summer Flings

This article was originally published in the Summer, 2017 issue of Resilientista magazine.  This is an online magazine targeted at women who have gone through a major change in their lives.  The subscription is free and you can sign up for it here. In fact, the Spring, 2018

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Acceptance

This is a subject that I hadn’t really thought that much about until recently. Perhaps because I just took it for granted but there are so many people who do not. What do I mean by acceptance? It’s multi faceted. Most importantly there’s acceptance of yourself as

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What’s it like to work with me?

I was asked the other day by a friend of mine just what it was that I do which prompted this post. A lot of people might not know what I do … only that I’m a nutritionist and I talk about sex a lot. LOL So

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Libido boosters for men

This one is for you gentlemen! Although ladies … you should know about this too since you’re more likely to get them to actually take something 😉 Before I continue, here’s the disclaimer. Everyone is different. What might work for one person won’t work for someone else.

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A slightly different take on pornography

I know this might be a difficult subject for many women, but if you could bear with me, I’d like to suggest a different take on it than most might think. The other day, hubby and I were watching a new Netflix series called Hot Girls Wanted.

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When your sex drive is out of sync with your partner’s

Do you remember the early days when you first met your partner? Chances are you were totally into that person and you would spend hours making out? You couldn’t get enough of each other and you couldn’t imagine it any other way? You’d take chances, almost getting

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Sexual Fantasies – The Kinkier Ones

If you’re joining us for the first time, you may want to read Sexual Fantasies – are they normal? and The Tame Ones first. Or not 😉 This article might make you a little uncomfortable or possibly trigger you if you’ve had any sort of traumatic sexual

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Transformation

I believe we are constantly changing. Does transformation mean something huge that takes place in a short period of time? Sometimes. But sometimes, transformation happens in small ways that accumulate over time. And sometimes those small ways are the things that set you up for a major

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Sexual Fantasies – The Tame Ones

Have you given any thought to what your sexual fantasies are? Are they dreams or are they more daydreams where you consciously think about them? Do they add to your sexual experience or are they an escape? Do you fear them or do you relish in what

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Sexual Fantasies – Are they normal for women?

Sex used to be all about procreation. Men were supposed to enjoy but women? Of course not, we were just the vessel to make babies. I mean, women were not considered “persons” until October 18, 1929. So if we were not persons, why would we have the

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Masturbation

I know, it’s a topic not many acknowledge, never mind talk about openly. Well, sex in general is not usually a topic of conversation around the coffee shop or anywhere else for that matter. Men are far more open about sex and masturbation than women are yet

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Erectile Dysfunction – Physical or Psychological?

Most of my posts are directed towards women but this post is meant for both men and women. To the men reading this post, please understand that there could be real health issues at the root of your sexual challenges and you need to get checked out

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The Big “O”

Orgasms can be the source of much pleasure or much mental anguish. We put so much pressure on ourselves sometimes to have an orgasm, that it can elude us. Sometimes our partner doesn’t know how to bring you to orgasm and you’re not sure how to explain

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Sex should always be fun.

I know a lot of women have had some very bad experiences with sex in the past, mostly in their formative years, but many as adults. And this breaks my heart. In “olden days” sex was viewed as procreation and was for the man’s benefit. Women were

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Sex Toys … Kicking Sex up a Notch

Thankfully the days of the traditional looking sex toys are fading. Companies are now making bangles that double as handcuffs, necklaces that double as nipple clamps, chokers that become whips and the styles are beautiful. Some of the most exciting designs can be found at www.unboundbox.com and www.lovecrave.com.  If

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Upcoming topics on Sexual Health and Wellness

Just to keep you on your toes, I thought I’d digress just slightly this week and let you know what the future holds for this segment of Stepping Stones Wellness and to ask for your input. Sex and sexual health and wellness are topics which are not

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Anal Sex – Is it “normal” and is it safe?

Some women consider this a taboo subject and not really talked about. This is not exactly normal “girls night out” conversation, at least in most circles. Some women consider it “dirty”, some think it’s too kinky for them and others just can’t imagine inserting something THAT big

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Personal Lubricants – The Good, The Bad and the Ugly

The use of personal lubricants during sex is sometimes a personal choice and sometimes a necessity, or at least strongly recommended. Depending on personal circumstances, you may need to use a lubricant if you’re using a condom. If you’re having fun for a long time or if

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When Your Man isn’t in the Mood

So ladies … there’s a lot of talk about women who are just too tired, stressed out, time crunched or hormonally imbalanced and consequently don’t have much desire for sex. That seems to be a common occurrence and if you’re one of those women, I can help

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Conscious Celibacy

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about the health benefits of frequent sex. I’m a huge advocate for regular sexual activity, either with a partner or by yourself. But what if you just have no interest whatsoever? That’s okay too. Ultimately you have to do what

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Health Benefits to Frequent Sex

I’m sure a lot of you already enjoy a healthy sex life. I’m also sure that a lot of you don’t. It’s amazing how much the mental aspects of sexual activity affect women … perhaps even more than the physical changes experienced during perimenopause and menopause. You’re

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The case of the missing libido

Did you used to enjoy a healthy sex life but now are more interested in sleep? Did you have a strong libido when you were younger (or before the kids arrived) but now you’re just not that interested in sex? Does it feel like a chore? Do

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When sex causes you pain …

Do you experience painful intercourse? Do you know why? Do you know what can be done about it to make sex more enjoyable? There are numerous reasons why women can experience painful sex, also known as Dyspaneunia. State of mind. Women are by nature emotional beings and

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Talk Dirty to Me

Do you talk to your partner about sex? I don’t mean talking dirty or sexting, although those are a lot of fun and I highly encourage them. I mean really talk? About what you like, what you don’t like, what you’d like to try. Ladies, do you

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Sexual Intimacy

Do you ever feel like sex is a chore? Do you feel like sex is just one more thing on your long list of things to do? You’re so freeking tired from running around for the job, the house, the kids (if you have any), the spouse,

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