Sex used to be all about procreation. Men were supposed to enjoy but women? Of course not, we were just the vessel to make babies. I mean, women were not considered “persons” until October 18, 1929. So if we were not persons, why would we have the “right” to enjoy sex?
Well times have changed … a lot! Now women are not only persons, we’re starting to take over the world 😉 We’re in positions of power and authority, which until just a few decades ago was unthinkable.
“Well, that’s great Sandy, thanks for the history lesson, but what on earth does that have to do with sexual fantasies???” A great deal actually. Women had been repressed for so long over so many areas of their life, the question arises … Is it normal to fantasize about things such as sex with another woman, sex with a man not my husband, sex with a group of people? What about sex outside? What about with a stranger? My first response is … hell yeah!! But that’s kind of simplistic, doesn’t really answer the question and makes for one heck of a short article. So let’s look at this a little deeper.
Fantasies that do not put yourself or someone else in danger, or do not break the law are safe and no cause for concern. They’re a healthy way to express your inner thoughts and feelings
Do you talk about your fantasies with your partner? Your girlfriends? Do you want to act them out or do you want to keep them all to yourself in your fantasyland? Are fantasies helpful? Yes, many are. There have been reports of women who are paralyzed using their fantasies to help them regain sexual satisfaction.
The topic of sexual fantasies is so complicated but I promise to try to keep this as simple and straight forward as possible. Today’s post was simply to introduce the topic and get you thinking. Next week we’ll delve a little deeper, but I promise not to scare you off. 🙂
During the next week, I encourage you to think about whether you fantasize or not. I’m guessing you likely do even if you’re not willing to admit to it. Pay attention to what you fantasize about. It just might give you some insights into yourself. 🙂
Until next week darlings, enjoy your week, have fun with your fantasies and enjoy your sexuality. And don’t be afraid to share them with your partner.
Sandy O’Shea, CNP