I’m totally used to being on the run most of the time. My evenings are pretty much my main down time unless I’m working or going to some sort of function but when I have too many days in a row where I’m nonstop from the time I get up until the time I go to bed, I get overwhelmed. This is how I ended up in overwhelm and not giving my best to my job, my business or my relationships … especially with myself.
November 25, 2016 was my last day in the corporate world. If I never set foot in that world again it will be too soon. I never belonged there, didn’t fit in and almost everyone thought I was a little odd, especially at my last job. But that’s okay because I didn’t want to be like the rest of them. I wanted to be me and to be true to who I am. Hence why I’m now doing what I’m doing.
Most of the months of December, January and February were spent working at home, updating my website, doing my social media posting, keeping the house in order and occasionally running out for coffee or errands. And networking of course, as well as online learning and participating in a LOT of groups. It was a welcome change from the up at 4 a.m., workout, leave home at 7 a.m., get home at 6 p.m. at the earliest, dinner, etc. And I got very comfortable with that routine.
Then on March 7th I started a part-time job in a health food store and that’s when the feelings of overwhelm started. I was trying to juggle a part-time job, all of my business responsibilities, networking events and oh yeah … a husband. And where did I fit into all of this? I wasn’t working out regularly, I was sloppy with my eating (pushing limits is a favourite pastime of mine) and self care??? What was that?
For about two weeks, my most common phrases seemed to be “I’m so tired” and “I’m so overwhelmed” and “this has gotta stop”. I was getting cranky, my attitude (which is usually high energy, high vibration and very positive) started to crash and I found myself in a funk and not really happy. One day I happened to be in my favourite health food store (the one I had done my co-op hours in for school and my #1 choice of where to work) and FINALLY they were looking for someone. Forty-eight hours later, I was hired and had to tell my current employer of 3 weeks that I would be leaving two weeks later. And then my attitude started to shift, ever so slightly.
This past Thursday, I finally went for a much needed massage and then home for a nice long, hot soak with Epsom salts and lavender essential oil. Having stopped for a couple of hours from the constant physical and mental activity, I was able to step back and realize what was happening. I truly was overwhelmed but it was my own doing. I had stopped doing a couple of critical activities (journaling and my to do list). I spent so much time thinking about all the things I needed to do instead of just writing them down somewhere so I didn’t have to think about them, I was overwhelmed but the sheer amount of brain power it took to keep things in order.
But here’s the thing. I realized that, as Tony Robbins would say, I needed to change my state. I was so wrapped up in all the things that were happening, I hadn’t taken much time to take care of me. When I first started working at home, the hour between 8-9 a.m. was mine. I sat down with my hot beverage, my empowering book, my heating pad and my cat and that’s how I started my day. Then I would go into my office and journal for a few minutes and then write out my to do list for that day. I would make some notes in my planner and by 9:30 I was rocking and rolling. As of tomorrow morning, I am going back to that routine.
I took most of this weekend to get some cooking done, cleaned out the front gardens so they’re ready to bloom like crazy, slept in, worked out and basically took care of me.
So what’s the moral to this story? It is easy and normal to feel overwhelmed sometimes. We live busy lives, trying to cram 30 hours of stuff into 24. We’re often sleep-deprived, not drinking enough water, not eating enough vegetables and not taking enough time for self-care. But we don’t need to stay there. It is entirely within our power to change our state and get out of that overwhelmed state. What helps me? Listening to Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Les Brown and other motivation speakers. I listen to upbeat, happy music and dance around the house for a few minutes. I pass on events from time to time even though I might really want to go. I read an empowering book. And before too long, I’m back into a high vibration, positive state.
The best way to get out of an overwhelmed state is to first recognize that’s where you are and second to realize that the only way you can change that is to DECIDE to change your state and then go do it. Not everyone likes this idea, but YOU are responsible for how you feel. It’s not what happens to us that determines our state … it’s how we respond to it.
So the next time you’re feeling like “OMG I can’t believe how much is going on and I’m tired and stressed and I just can’t cope” STOP. Literally, stop what you’re doing and change something. Do something you enjoy and that makes you happy and puts a smile on your face and resolve to change the state that you’re in.
I promise, you can do it. And it’s so worth it!! If you need some help with this, please reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’m happy to help in any way I can.
So go out there, do what you’ve gotta do, take care of yourself and ENJOY YOUR LIFE!
Until next time, wishing you a fantastic week!
Sandy O’Shea, CNP